I have removed 3 posts.
I make no apology for what was in them and still agree with my reasons why they were posted and what they contained. They were my opinion.

I have decided there are better things in life then being drawn into petty bitching tranny spats.
I have not pulled them because of any intimation or treats but because it is time to move forward.

I pulled a couple down the other day and removed a post off my FB page in good faith but it had no effect so I have decided to just move on.

I believe in Transsexuals and in reclaiming our slowly disappearing identity because I believe it is important for us not to be lost under a giant umbrella. I have always been willing to work along side TG groups so long as it is not detrimental to TS.

To this end I am putting my efforts into Transsexuals of New Zealand.

What follows is not aimed at anyone person in anyway.

Misgendering:
This is a complicated issue and not as simple as it might seem.
It is all very good for people to idnetify as they please but what if it impacts negatively on others?
This was in part one of the catylysts for the orginal forming of Transsexuals of New Zealand. It was felt Transsexuals were losing their identity and others were claiming to be transsexuals who some felt were not the same as they were. The definition was being clouded and society being confussed. This when people were starting to understand and accept transsexuals but now were being confused by the changing of what a term meant.

I have generally always tried to address a person by the gender they present as. Someone who presented as female, I usually referred to them as her, she etc. So no misgendering there.

There always was a huge variety of definitions out there but I believe the HRC Report, 'To Be Who I Am' released in 2008 is a good one.

"Transsexual: a person who has changed, or is in the process of changing their physical sex to conform to their gender identity."

I believe this is a pretty basic but fair definition and one I tend to use and go by.

As someone recently put it, Transsexuals have a 'desire', and I believe this is important. An MtF Transsexual will seek hormones, may seek FFS, BA and will desire GRS. They wish to be as female as possible. They dont like their 'extra' they have between their legs and have no desire for it to be used as a male would use it. they don't refer to it as penis. They desire a vagina, to be able to bare children, to nurture a child and breast feed. They will have strong motherly instincts. Alas there may well be constraints on what they can achieve, perhaps medical, financial or age but they will still have the 'desire.' This applies similarly with FtM Transsexuals as well. One does not need to have GRS to be Transsexual.

There are some people out there who dress as the gender other than the sex they were deemed at birth but who do not have the 'desire' to go on hormones, to seek operations, are happy to retain their penis and use it as a male with a female, seek to father a child. And call themselve Transsexual. They also call themselves Lesbians so is it any wonder alot of Lesbians dont like Transsexuals?

Sorry but I believe this is 'misgendering'. These people are nothing like the Transsexuals I know or like myself. Do I have a right to point this out to them? Am I the gender police? No, I am not the gender police but yes I believe I do have a right as they are confusing what society sees as Transsexual and was coming to understand as Transsexual. These people may well be a Transgender person of some kind but they are clouding or muddying the waters, confusing societies understanding and will therefore hurt acceptance of Transsexuals.

So yes as a Transsexual, I do have a right to try to clear this water. This is also partly why Transsexuals of NZ was  originally formed. To help understanding of Transsexuals and promote the needs of Transsexuals.

Transsexuals of New Zealand are not separatists or elitest. We have alwasy expressed the desire to work and support other TG Groups and GLB. Being labelled as separatist and elitest by these few is hardly the way to show you want to work with someone but merely divisive.